I am Neuroscience PhD, a humanist, skeptic, feminist, avid reader, science enthusiast, woolly-liberal über-nerd, and, as of October 2015, father to the Lykketroll.

I moved from England to Norway in January 2012 and live in Lørenskog with my wife, the Lykketroll, and our two aging rescue cats, Socrates and Schrödinger. 

I am on paternity leave from the 4th of July to the 18th of November. 

The job I am on leave from is as an  Associate Professor and Head of Studies at the Oslo and Akershus University College of Applied Sciences. My background is in child neurodevelopment (my PhD looked into the relationship between fatty acids like omega-3 and cognitive development in young children) but I now work on a hodge-podge of things roughly within the field of Universal Design of ICT 50% of the time, the other 50% of my time I am Head of the 'General' Studies (Allmenn in Norwegian) Unit, which is comprised of around 24 academics within a range of fields, including mathematics, physics, Norwegian, and technology and leadership.

In between working and doing the usual dad things,  I like hiking and running in the beautiful Norwegian outdoors, cooking and playing video games. 

If I believed in souls I would say that mine was born in Norway. 

I plan to sleep when I'm dead.

Chronicling my paternity leave

In February 2015 I found out I was going to become a dad, and on October 23rd that year, I became one. I had wanted to write about the experience of becoming a parent pretty much from the off, but it was just too difficult to find the time; I had to put the blog into hibernation pretty much on the day we bought our house in the summer of 2014 as it was enough learning how to adult and doing DIY in all our spare time.

Today, though, is the first proper day of my 22-week-long paternity leave (although it officially started on July 4th; more on that later, probably), and, having pondered over it for a while, I decided that today would be a good a day as any to give Dad Blogging a go.

The pic on the left was taken at 04:40, right after the Lykketroll was put back to bed after his routine Crack of Dawn feed. I can't think of a more appropriate and representative picture to illustrate the this first post: Dawn of a new chapter in my life and so cheesily etc. 

I am still not sure what I what I want this blog to be, but I spent a little time last night making a list of some of the things I have been thinking about or wanting to write about:

  • Being a dad, being a parent and being one half of a parenting team, three different if highly overlapping things
  • Being a dad in Norway
  • Identity; my own identity as a British Indian living in Norway and the Lykketroll's identity as a Norwegian
  • Routine stuff like what he eats, how the day goes, the kinds of things he uses and needs, and, well, our routines, something that we have found very helpful from reading other new parents' experiences
  • Our excursions and activities
  • Moral and ethical issues (I want him to be a good person - what does it mean to be good? Should we bring him up a vegetarian (I am a flexitarian), or let him decide for himself later? Is writing a blog about being the Lykketroll's dad an invasion of his privacy?  
  • The science and psychology of being and raising a baby. I am, for example, currently obsessed with the Lykketroll's developing sense of Object Permanence. There is also lots of fascinating pseudoscience and superstition connected to parenting that I would like to explore.

It might have been yesterday or the day before, but when talking about pregnancy/having a child my wife said 'it was like taking on a new job without having any idea who your boss is going to be' and I think she hit the nail on the head.

Sounds like he's waking up so it's time to start dadding and getting to know my boss.  

 

Mirror, mirror on the wall ... hi stranger!