In February 2015 I found out I was going to become a dad, and on October 23rd that year, I became one. I had wanted to write about the experience of becoming a parent pretty much from the off, but it was just too difficult to find the time; I had to put the blog into hibernation pretty much on the day we bought our house in the summer of 2014 as it was enough learning how to adult and doing DIY in all our spare time.
Today, though, is the first proper day of my 22-week-long paternity leave (although it officially started on July 4th; more on that later, probably), and, having pondered over it for a while, I decided that today would be a good a day as any to give Dad Blogging a go.
The pic on the left was taken at 04:40, right after the Lykketroll was put back to bed after his routine Crack of Dawn feed. I can't think of a more appropriate and representative picture to illustrate the this first post: Dawn of a new chapter in my life and so cheesily etc.
I am still not sure what I what I want this blog to be, but I spent a little time last night making a list of some of the things I have been thinking about or wanting to write about:
- Being a dad, being a parent and being one half of a parenting team, three different if highly overlapping things
- Being a dad in Norway
- Identity; my own identity as a British Indian living in Norway and the Lykketroll's identity as a Norwegian
- Routine stuff like what he eats, how the day goes, the kinds of things he uses and needs, and, well, our routines, something that we have found very helpful from reading other new parents' experiences
- Our excursions and activities
- Moral and ethical issues (I want him to be a good person - what does it mean to be good? Should we bring him up a vegetarian (I am a flexitarian), or let him decide for himself later? Is writing a blog about being the Lykketroll's dad an invasion of his privacy?
- The science and psychology of being and raising a baby. I am, for example, currently obsessed with the Lykketroll's developing sense of Object Permanence. There is also lots of fascinating pseudoscience and superstition connected to parenting that I would like to explore.
It might have been yesterday or the day before, but when talking about pregnancy/having a child my wife said 'it was like taking on a new job without having any idea who your boss is going to be' and I think she hit the nail on the head.
Sounds like he's waking up so it's time to start dadding and getting to know my boss.